About YWT

In an interracial relationship or marriage, "Yes, we're together" probably ranks among the top three most oft-quoted phrases (right behind "I'm sorry" and "I forgive you"). Even in some of the most progressive, liberal, intellectually advanced, and economically developed areas of United States, folks have a hard time wrapping their minds and hearts around the notion of two people, who don't look like each other, committing to live a life of love together. Interracial marriage isn't any harder or more challenging than same-race marriage, but it can be more entertaining.

"Yes, We're Together," is a humor blog challenging the assumptions and assuming the challenges of interracial love in the 21st century with humor and grace.  Here at YWT, all racial/ethnic combinations are fair game and our writing meets at the intersection of the serious, the hilarious, and the controversial.

Atinuke O. Diver is the creator and editor of YesWe'reTogether.comThe oldest daughter of Nigerian immigrants, Tinu was born in Mattapan, Massachusetts, raised in Prince George's County, Maryland and lives in Boston, Massachusetts.  She earned an English degree, Certificate in Nonprofit Leadership, and Law degree from the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill.  She is a proud graduate of UNC's Creative Writing Program, an honored recipient of the Wanda Chappell Scholarship, and former Editor of Virtuous Woman Campus Magazine.

Her writing has been featured in BlogHerThe Review Review, The African Immigrant Journal, Racialicious, Love Isn't Enough, The Fresh and has been an Editor's Pick on

Tinu is a 2013 Ms. JD Writer-in-Residence, a contributor to the forthcoming book, Talking Taboo: American Christian Women Get Frank about Faith (White Cloud Press, Oct 2013), and the recipient of a Writing Residency at Wellspring House.

All views expressed on this site are entirely those of the author and do not reflect the views of her employer, her husband, or her momma.

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  1. :D I didn't know you had a blog! I found the link on Honeysmoke and I like your writing. I remember L told me you got married. Congrats & keep writing b/c the world needs good voices like yours.


  2. Hey Brandee!!!!
    So to hear from you! Thanks for visiting and reading. I'm honored!

  3. I'm really glad to have found your blog today! I am in an interracial marriage as well, and it's hard to find blogs that address different angles of this experience. I had to chuckle because I say "Yes, We're Together" all of the time. I write a travel blog and many of the trips I write about have been with my husband, but I have yet to write about our experiences internationally. Thanks for inspiring me to write it.

  4. @Terri
    I'm honored and humbled. So glad you found the blog too! Welcome!

  5. I really admire what you do, and thanks for the encouragement on my site! I'll keep coming back.

  6. @Adeola
    Aw, thank you! I'm a huge fan of your site as well (, everyone go check it out). The "Must Nigerians Marry Abroad Marry Nigerians?" video gets me every time: "THERE IS LOVE IN NIGERIA!" Ha! Makes me laugh just thinking about it, lol.

  7. Hi Tinu,

    I am also a writer and live in Boston. "Yes, we're together" is definitely at the top of my and my husband's most-oft used phrase list. Glad to have found your blog. Thank you for sharing your experiences and letting us know we're not alone!

    1. Hi Teaching Poet,

      Thanks for reading and commenting. Always good to know we have company. So glad you found the site too!

  8. WE fell for WE... mon amiFebruary 25, 2014 at 3:17 AM

    Found your blog today, I've been in an interracial relationship for 15 yrs, 12yrs and still going strong are from marriage.
    Really, only until the last 3 months or so, with no change in location.. have we experienced any racial prejudice which took us completely off guard. Oddly, the situations came from so-called professional young women. Only once when we were only on maybe our 3rd date years ago, did some old bitty waitress treat my now-husband with disrespect and I politely told her were to put her bitter comments and actions. He had told me we can leave and apologized for her to me. I refused and I shared my food with him and then refused to let him pay, I walked to her and I paid letting her know that I usually reguardless of service tip waitresses well but the only she she would recieve is to comeout of the racist decade she came from and into the 21st century with the rest of us, leaving her to deal with her manager and having him try to apologize as we got into the car. Nope, perm-boycotted. (Pleased, only a year or so later when the restaurant went under.) After that we had no racially charged issues brought to our faces. We have traved mostly outside the US without incident. Then, as a stated earlier, just in the last 3 months, both ofnus have had people treat us negatively, simply after finding out "Yes, We're together." We wanted to start traveling inside the US.... but are hesitant, now. We haven't gone out of our own backyard to get the negativity, so how will the rest of our country treat us? We really thought such ignorance had "died out." Possibly a niave notion, it seems. A few couple's friends, also biracial, stated we should travel in large groups at least the six of us. Less likely for anyone couple to be singled out, but that seems obsurd also. My husband and I enjoy romantic getaways. Well, I am enjoying your blog. Btw, I am white of mixed hispanic descendants while my husband being of african-american descent. The biracial couple's friends are of many different pot stirred and of my husband's siblings, only one is in a same race marriage. Also, we hail from the lower southwestern vicinity of Houston, TX; which in general is avery diverse region. Either way about it, I wanted to show support for this blog. Some folks may feel they are singular and possibly my love and me against the world, lol. However, hopefully they can venture across this blog and know there are more of us out there that didn't see skin, we saw love.