As if the fear of black women dating white men is the reason to treat them right...
When I first read Jenée Desmond-Harris' article in The Root about an upcoming book by Stanford Law School professor Richard Ralph Banks, "Is Marriage for White People?" what surprised me most wasn't the title, but the book's conclusion. The title of Banks' forthcoming book, available on September 1st, comes from the mouth of a 12 year-old student featured in a 2006 Washington Post article by Joy Jones.
"When a wife out-earns her husband, the couple cannot conform to that conventional male-breadwinner model. Rather than adhere to predefined roles, they have no choice but to improvise, to attempt to fashion their own model of a relationship as they patch together expectations developed during their own coming of age."
"If more black women married nonblack men, more black men and women might marry each other. If black women don't marry because they have too few options, and some black men because they have too many, then black women, by opening themselves to interracial marriage could address both problems at once. For black women, interracial marriage doesn't abandon the race, it serves the race."
"A difference in vaules or cultural orientation is not something that a couple can or should 'get over.' Our cultural values are part of who we are, an expression of what we deem important in life."